Kink, as I mentioned in the previous post, I am not a sex therapist or specialist in kink. I am just your average American woman who has and continues to explore kink at all opportunities. Becoming interested in kink and exploring took years to be comfortable with and to move past my conservative religious upbringing. What I have learned over the years of studying and experiences is that the kink community is very open and nonjudgemental, and that has a freeing feeling.
But one of the areas I like to touch on because they can be used for solo use or for couple use, and that is sex toys. This is a great way to find your own sexual pleasure and help enhance your sex life with your partner. My introduction to sex toys was going to a Pure Romance Party for one of my friend’s bachelorette parties. Man, my mind was blown by the different lubes, creams, toys, and the list goes on and on. My first purchase from Pure Romance was their bosom buddy product, which causes tingling in any area you apply, from lips to nips. Little did I know it would start a long and expensive love affair with Pure Romance company.
Pure Romance sells a variety of products, including skin care, lubes, toys, and couple interactions. One of their best products is their Coochy shave cream. No matter what area you shave, the moisturizer in it prevents razor burn or ingrown hair! I recommend it for any shaving needs. It is so good that they came out with a male version as well. But shaving cream does not introduce sex toys! Y.
Every woman should own a great and fantastic vibrator. It is an excellent investment to help with sexual knowledge and personal pleasure. I made the mistake when I bought my first vibrator. I went cheap, and it died after the first time, and it never seemed to work correctly. There are so many options when coming to vibrators. You have your choice. When attending a Pure Romance party, they discuss the vibrators and the pros and cons of all of them. Do not go cheap on a vibrator. Buy good quality to have a good experience and learn to love pleasure.
The purchase of a vibrator as a single woman was not in hopes of replacing a man or not needing a man. It was to still have pleasure; having pleasure is viewed in a negative light in the US. Everyone is either limited to food, alcohol, sex, or whatever brings pleasure. I deserve pleasure with or without a sexual partner, and that is where a vibrator comes in handy. It is so important to understand your own sexual desires and needs and explore your sexual imagination. The exploring of my sexual imagination and vibrator helped me develop my first sex bucket list. Opening the mind with the use of a sex toy is a great way to open the mind to kink.
A sex toy, as mentioned, is not just a solo act but can also be used with a partner. The first time a partner asked me to bring my vibrator to our subsequent sexual encounter, I was embarrassed to even admit I owned one. Because I felt the shame of my own sexual exploration. I also thought I would be insulting my partner by enjoying a vibrator or a toy during sex. My partner had to ask me two more times for me to even bring it to our subsequent sexual encounter. The sex toy allows for my partner to explore and understand my body better during sex. Sex toys are not just vibrators, but cock rings, anal plugs, or dildaos, each one is a personal choice. To me, the use of sex toys during sex is not something to be embarrassed by but is something to help enhance my sex life with my partner and the communication between us. A vibrator controlled by your partner can be a huge turn-on and a way for them to find out what you like. The use of a cock right can help with staying erect, and if you get a vibrating one, extra clit stimulation. Which to me is a huge plus. Sex toys allow for a new area of exploration and having an explosive orgasm.
Sex toys should be a conversation to help enhance and increase pleasure during a sexual encounter. Either by yourself or with your partner! Toys’ vibration, feeling, and movement give a great sense of joy. They are a great way to explore the sexual needs you have and start working on that sex bucket list.
Below are my top five toys for solo use or for your partner. Each toy is great for a variety of uses and can be enjoyed!
- Main Attraction: It’s great for solo or partner play, with dual action and 10 different speeds. It can also be used in the bathtub!
- The Bullet Vibe: superb traveling companion, adds pleasant sensation, and is discreet in packing.
- WE/Vibe the Chorus: good for couples’ play, controlled by an app on your phone, great for in-person play or long-distance play to keep the spice on during phone sex, and allow your partner to control the speed and the orgasm.
- Double Feature Cock Ring: clitoral massager with ten functions during sex, a nice addition for your partner
- Bare it All (adjustable spreader bar) is a fantastic way to get your body into different positions and allow for new experiences.
All products are available on the Pure Romance website! www.pureromance.com
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